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A personal story and bad mental habits
In the past six months, I’ve been feeling better than I’ve felt in, honestly, a few years.
It’s been a tough few years for me and my family (a peek into that here and here) — and man, it feels good to say to friends when they ask how I’m doing, “Actually, I’m doing pretty great!”
But I’ve also been noticing that I have a bad mental habit.
As soon as I get a bit of energy in my bank account, my brain immediately wants to spend it.
My brain thinks: great, you have some energy, let’s spend it on this big work/personal project!
Of course, I get it. While I’ve been operating with a very limited energy budget the past few years, there have been so many projects I’ve been wanting to get to. Everything from dietary changes to strength training to LinkedIn marketing, and much more, are on my potential to-do list.
And yet, when I’ve followed that urge to take on big projects in a dramatic way, I’ve quickly drained myself again. And that’s definitely not what I want to be doing right now. My truest priorities are to:
Enjoy feeling good + not tired, and having a solid cushion of energy in my bank account. This is a luxury I haven’t had in a while.
Keep building up my emergency fund of energy, which has been unfortunately low, the past few years.
Take amazing, gentle care of myself, and continue to prioritize myself, my family, and my 1:1 clients.
A lot of days, I love this plan. But at least a few times a week, that thought will re-arise: great, you have some energy, let’s spend it on this BIG work/personal project!
It’s been helpful for me to remind myself:
Katie, that’s just a bad mental habit you have, which wants to spend energy as soon as you get it. That’s not what we’re doing right now. Right now, we’re enjoying feeling good, and we’re building up our energy nest egg.
Explicitly noticing + naming to myself that I have this bad mental habit has been incredibly useful to me – I’m far more likely to catch myself before I’ve spent four days doing a really hard thing + totally exhausted myself unnecessarily.
And, of course, when I am very protective of my newly more-generous energy budget, I actually feel inspired to take on some new projects at a pace that truly works for me (Q1 included a fun exploration of SEO for my business, and I’m gently dipping my toe into strength training.).
In that obvious yet perpetually surprising way, I go faster when I’m not sprinting, and then needing to recover from exhaustion.
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I wanted to share my story, for two reasons:
“I want to spend this energy as soon as I earn it!” is a bad mental habit that I’ve observed in a lot of people. Do you have it, too?
Do you have another bad mental habit? It’s been really helpful for me to name what it is, so I can notice it (ideally) before I start acting on it.
As always, I’m rooting for you in the week ahead. You’ve got this.
Katie
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